The Weekly Ritual That Saved Our Marriage 💗

When was the last time you and your spouse really checked in? Not about chores. Not about bills. Just heart-to-heart, eye-to-eye time?

Life is distracting. Kids. Work. Movies. Phones. It all crowds our time connecting as a couple.

That’s why my wife and I started a weekly Couples Check-In. Honestly? It changed the game completely for us.

Every Sunday after church, we block off just 1 hour: no distractions, no devices, just us. To simply talk. We created a structure that helps us open up, reconnect, and get back on the same page after a crazy week.

Here’s the format we use and love (and feel free to steal it):

1. 🟡 Appreciations & Excitements: What did your partner do this week that made you feel loved? What are you looking forward to together?
2. 🟠 Challenges & Support: What was hard this week? Where could you use a little extra help or grace?
3. 🔴 Unfinished Business: Are there any lingering frustrations or unresolved topics that need to be aired out?
4. 🟢 Our Direction & Vision: How are we doing on our long-term goals spiritually, relationship-wise, and financially?
5. 💗 Connection & Intimacy: How do we feel about our closeness, touch, and emotional intimacy? Is there anything we can change or improve?
6. 🙏 Pray Together: A short prayer to bring it all back to God, as one heart, equally yoked in his presence.
7. 📅 Calendar Coordination: Look ahead together. Make space for date nights, family events, and rest (sabbath).

This can all be done at home, but sometimes we like to go out to a cute lunch spot or a coffee shop to change up the mood and keep things fun!

We hope this helps you all, it's seriously been such a blessing on our marriage! And if you already do something like this, I’d love to hear your format too and how it's helped your relationship or marriage!

If you all would like to know more about our check-ins or hear stories of our walk to heal together, let us know in the comments below!